From the time we are small, our friends and Bollywood movies all around us teach us that a girl and a boy can never be friends. A lot of parents feel that mixing with the opposite gender can lead to their children losing their way in their studies. And therefore, many prefer their children going to an only-boys or an only-girls school. They feel that with the absence of the opposite gender, their children’s minds wouldn’t wander and they would concentrate completely on their studies. Is that really the case?
Interestingly, from what I have heard from friends who have studied in only-boys schools, their minds wander a lot more into useless activities in classrooms and beyond compared to those who studied in co-ed institutions. The main reason for this is the fact that guys try to be at their best behavior when in the company of the opposite gender.
While making friends, differentiating people based on religion, region, caste, gender etc. is quite stupid in my opinion. We are social beings and need each others company to live life happily and peacefully. Having friends and meeting people from a varied variety of backgrounds, regions, religions, genders etc. teaches us so much.
While a guy may think practically and help you sort out your problem, a girl may think emotionally and empathize with you by sitting and understanding what you are going through. She may take the time to calm you down and make it a point to ask your well being each day until you are fine. While a guy may tend to prefer partying as a means of hanging out, a girl may prefer talking over a simple dinner spread as a means of spending some time together.
Having friends of both genders helps bring perspective to our lives. Both men and women tend to feel, think and react in different ways to different situations. And this is where each of them can support us in their own way.
Think from your heart rather than your brain before making friends. Enough said!
Linking to NaBloPoMo (National Blog Post Month – April – My post no 5 for this month.