“He is a liar. He doesn’t even care what I feel. If he did, he would have had the guts to tell me the truth. All the times we spent talking sweet nothings for hours on end seem like a big joke.”
The first time our eyes met was when he trooped in coolly at 8:45am for an 8 am class. With unkempt hour and a shabby appearance overall, it looked as though he had just got up from sleep and set out for a long day ahead. He seemed too much into himself making me wonder if arrogance was his second name. For me though, classes were all about talking to everyone and making as many friends as possible.
“The woman of the house is the one who handles the kitchen.”
“The woman of the house should be the one who cleans and tidies the house.”
A lot of us must have heard many or all the above statements being uttered by relatives in our respective homes. This is just a miniscule snapshot of what society thinks even today. But why this mindset? Why is the women expected to work like a machine at home while the man relaxes after a tough day at work? Can’t a woman work outside home as well?
I have always cribbed about the fact that in the cities where I have resided in, there have generally been no blogger meets at least during those periods. From Pune to Hyderabad, I always longed to attend one. Yes, some are nothing but brand promotions with tea, coffee and good food thrown in for good measure. But the fact that you get a chance to meet some amazing bloggers across the spectrum is quite exciting.
Just a day prior to the Hyderabad Bloggers Meet, Manjulika dropped a note to me on Twitter with the FB page link about the details of the meet. I managed to register just in time and the rest is history. Interestingly this was the 4th such meet. And I thought no blogger meets happen in Hyderabad :O.
Each of us has a definition for how a good girl should be. Some say that a good girl is one who respects elders. Some say that a good girl is disciplined in her habits in the sense that she doesn’t smoke, drink, do drugs and the likes. Some say that a good girl knows how to cook and do the household work at home and keep others happy. Some say that a good girl is one who can do professional work as well as household work successfully.
But then who decides the definition of a good girl? Is there someone who has the final authority on that? The answer is a big NO. Such definitions are nothing but our view of how a girl, daughter, wife, sister, mother should be. But who are we to decide what constitutes being a ‘good girl’? Secondly, is there really something like a ‘good girl’ or a ‘good boy’?
We love to lie for anything and everything in our lives, don’t we? From simple lies which may not harm people to those which could actually be detrimental to individuals, lying has become part and parcel of our lives. But why do we lie? Why is it so difficult to be true to people around?
One of the primary reasons is fear. Fear from our parents, extended family, friends, peers and more. We fear on the way they would react hearing the truth. We fear having to bear the consequences of being true to the situation. Moreover, a lot of us lack the courage and the will-power to be able to handle the effects of telling the truth to people.
Since the time e-books have gained a foothold in the literary world, the war between e-books and paperbacks has begun. It is a war which has split individuals with extremely divergent views on different sides of the spectrum. Can both of them survive together? Or is it that one will win over the other? Let’s check it out.
E-books are pretty cost effective for the publisher as well as the reader. Publishers don’t encounter any costs in terms of printing the copies of the book. E-Books also provide prospective authors the opportunity to self publish their work without having to run behind publishers with huge manuscripts which is the case if one wants to get paperbacks published.
Pre-marital sex is a word which can’t be uttered in many countries for fear of the so called moral brigade. It’s a term which has always been associated with religion, culture, regions, caste, creed and the likes. While people of some religions and regions allow it, there are many countries and many religions which consider it as a sin. But whatever be the case, people are slowly but surely starting to be more open about it.
Our traditional Indian family values which are embedded into our system from the time we are small children are based on the fact that when we marry someone, we should marry him or her for the whole life (or for 7 births as they used to say). We should consider everything from the nature of our partner to the social well-being of the family before making our decision. And then once the decision is made, we should stand by it till the time we are not in this world.