Do you have the ability to take up risks? Are you ready to face challenges of any kind head on? Are you courageous enough to take control of your life by not being dependent on others to take decisions for you? Being bold is all about taking the right decisions at the right time by thinking of the pros and cons. Some of these decisions may be perceived as risks by a lot many people. But if we are confident about what we are doing, we needn’t bother about the comments the others tend to pass at us. As a matter of fact, people around love to discourage those who have actually succeeded at what they aim for.
There are so many moments in our lives which are worth cherishing for years on end. Along with keeping us happy and contented, they act as a motivation to strive hard to excel and achieve a lot more.
Securing the highest marks in our class for a particular subject
Winning a prize in sports
Achieving fame and money amidst a plethora of individuals
Becoming a parent
Meeting and spending time with our friends and family
Some of you may wonder the reason I have included the last one as a memorable moment. What’s so special about spending time with friends and family? Aren’t they the people who we meet almost every day?
The world runs on hope. Even in the worst cases of depression, despair, tragedy and the likes, there’s always that silver lining and ray of hope which keeps one going. It’s all about finding that ray of hope and trying to stay positive when the chips are down. But then, it’s easier said than done.
When disasters like earthquakes, volcanic eruptions, floods, plane crashes etc. take place; there is a huge loss of life and property. In the case of natural disasters, entire cities and countries are destroyed. It’s really difficult to stay positive in such a situation. But then, there are moments of positivity in tragedy as well.
Haven’t you heard stories of people surviving below crashed buildings and walking out alive after earthquakes? Haven’t you heard mother’s giving birth to children during war and other disasters? Haven’t you heard of plane crashes where some passengers were saved because they didn’t board their flight at the last minute?
There are always a few stories of positivity and optimism which exist amidst tragedy and despair.
Leslee Udwin’s documentary ‘India’s Daughter‘ for BBC Four has taken India by storm. It takes us through the dark night of 16th December 2012 when Jyoti (Nirbhaya) and her friend were attacked by a group of perverted animals (can’t call them humans). I won’t go into the reasons of it being banned or whether that’s the right or the wrong decision. But the question is, what does it teach us?
First and foremost, it’s like a mirror of the society for so many of us. We have always heard that woman are considered inferior to man. But this one proves that and more with the statements of the individuals involved. From Mukesh Singh (one of the rapists) to the lawyers AP Singh and ML Sharma, all of them reflect such narrow views which are commonplace in our society. Haven’t you heard any of them before?
From the time we are young, our parents take care of us in every possible way. From ensuring that we have the correct eating and sleeping habits to teaching us values and virtues; from answering all our possible questions to quelling our curiosity to spending their hard earned money and time to see us grow into good human beings, our parents do so much for us. And thus, when they grow old, isn’t it our duty to take care of them?
Our newspapers, social media, TV channels, conversations among friends and more are almost always filled with negative stories of any kind from violence in any form to deaths. It’s like discussing about negativity is something which people survive on in today’s world. But is the world really that negative? Or are our thoughts shaped by what we read or hear?
Violence in any form has increased over the years. People are ready to kill each other for money, religion, love and every reason you could possibly think of. Disasters of every kind lead to deaths of thousands of people each day. While these acts may still be few and far in between, the human mind starts to remember each of them as he or she is fed with information on such acts day in and day out.
A woman’s place is only in the kitchen.
Women are the ones who take care of the children while men are the ones who go outside to work.
Household work is the domain of women while men can sit and relax.
Women cannot do physically demanding jobs.
Women are not the right people for top jobs in the corporate sector since they have to fulfill household responsibilities.
I am sure all of us would have made either one or all the above statements at least once during our lives. In patriarchal societies across the world, even today women are generally considered as those who can sit at home and fulfill the household responsibilities. Women who dare to go out and work, follow their passion and try to become multi-dimensional in their thinking and approach to life are frowned upon in many quarters.
But why so?
“Oh God! Look at him. His face is so full of pimples. Doesn’t he look awful?”
“Seeing the number of pimples he has, which girl would even want to come close to him?”
“Looks like he isn’t really bothered about his personality. If he has a problem with pimples, why doesn’t he care to treat it?”
I am sure there would be many of us who would have heard or made some of the above statements at least a couple of times in our lives. For each of us, the way we look shapes our lives in every sphere. Whether its getting a girlfriend or a boyfriend, getting a job or moving anywhere in the professional space, all of us want to look good all the time.
And looking good starts from the top. While a person may not have great facial features to begin with, everyone expects basic stuff like neatly combed hair, a clean shaven look for guys, a non – oily face and the likes. Obviously a lot many girls don’t like the guys to be clean shaven. But let’s cover that in a different post.
“He is a liar. He doesn’t even care what I feel. If he did, he would have had the guts to tell me the truth. All the times we spent talking sweet nothings for hours on end seem like a big joke.”
The first time our eyes met was when he trooped in coolly at 8:45am for an 8 am class. With unkempt hour and a shabby appearance overall, it looked as though he had just got up from sleep and set out for a long day ahead. He seemed too much into himself making me wonder if arrogance was his second name. For me though, classes were all about talking to everyone and making as many friends as possible.
“A woman’s place is at home.”
“The woman of the house is the one who handles the kitchen.”
“The woman of the house should be the one who cleans and tidies the house.”
A lot of us must have heard many or all the above statements being uttered by relatives in our respective homes. This is just a miniscule snapshot of what society thinks even today. But why this mindset? Why is the women expected to work like a machine at home while the man relaxes after a tough day at work? Can’t a woman work outside home as well?