There are so many times in our lives when we are confused on whether to listen to our hearts or our minds. From taking decisions which affect our lives or those around us to decisions our day to day activities, we are always in a dilemma on whom to listen to. There are so many instances when we listen to our heart causing our mind to be unhappy and vice-versa. But then, that’s life isn’t it?
In an age where equality is a buzzword for all and sundry, how can washing clothes be only a woman’s domain? Gone are the times when cooking food, washing clothes and doing other household chores was the duty of a woman. In today’s fast paced world where both men and women work in 9am-5pm corporate jobs, there is barely any time to relax. In such a scenario, its unfair to expect either partner to do all the chores at home. And therefore, sharing responsibilities is the best way forward.
In Phase 1 of this activity by BlogAdda, women were asked to blog about the startling statistics on the perceptions about washing clothes. The biggest problem with doing laundry or any other household chore is the stereotype associated with it.
“Dude, how can you even think of washing the clothes? Doesn’t your wife do it?”
“Can’t you get a maid? Why do you have to wash clothes or clean your house all the time?”
I am sure all of us would have come across either or both of the above two instances with respect to household chores. Household chores are considered to be something dirty and menial for men to do. This perception sadly exists among large parts of our population. Things are changing though, slowly but surely.
And that’s where Phase 2 of this activity comes in. Now is the time for us to be the change that we always claim and strive to be.
In my case, I began washing my own clothes once I started my under-graduation. Until then, I didn’t have to worry about washing clothes, ironing and the likes as I was pampered enough to forget about such activities. But as I began a life outside of home, the difficulties began to arise. Whether it was about understanding the way a laundromat functions or the instructions on washing specific kinds of clothes, I learnt so much about washing clothes during my years at college. Washing clothes every week was full of many Wash Bucket Challenges.
Like all parents, my parents were surprised at my transformation from someone who didn’t bother about such things to someone who had learnt the art of washing clothes. And now, I understand basic stuff like which detergents are good for clothes and which are not, how hot or cold the water should be and so on and so forth. For me, participating in this activity was a no-brainer. How can we just label ‘washing clothes’ as a chore performed only by women?
The 200g Ariel Matic packet is an excellent washing powder. Use a little of it and you get clothes which are neatly washed, soft, fresh and smelling good. The result – ‘A happy you’.
Linking to NaBloPoMo (National Blog Post Month – April – My post no 1 for this month.
Do you have the ability to take up risks? Are you ready to face challenges of any kind head on? Are you courageous enough to take control of your life by not being dependent on others to take decisions for you? Being bold is all about taking the right decisions at the right time by thinking of the pros and cons. Some of these decisions may be perceived as risks by a lot many people. But if we are confident about what we are doing, we needn’t bother about the comments the others tend to pass at us. As a matter of fact, people around love to discourage those who have actually succeeded at what they aim for.
There are so many moments in our lives which are worth cherishing for years on end. Along with keeping us happy and contented, they act as a motivation to strive hard to excel and achieve a lot more.
Securing the highest marks in our class for a particular subject
Winning a prize in sports
Achieving fame and money amidst a plethora of individuals
Becoming a parent
Meeting and spending time with our friends and family
Some of you may wonder the reason I have included the last one as a memorable moment. What’s so special about spending time with friends and family? Aren’t they the people who we meet almost every day?
The world runs on hope. Even in the worst cases of depression, despair, tragedy and the likes, there’s always that silver lining and ray of hope which keeps one going. It’s all about finding that ray of hope and trying to stay positive when the chips are down. But then, it’s easier said than done.
When disasters like earthquakes, volcanic eruptions, floods, plane crashes etc. take place; there is a huge loss of life and property. In the case of natural disasters, entire cities and countries are destroyed. It’s really difficult to stay positive in such a situation. But then, there are moments of positivity in tragedy as well.
Haven’t you heard stories of people surviving below crashed buildings and walking out alive after earthquakes? Haven’t you heard mother’s giving birth to children during war and other disasters? Haven’t you heard of plane crashes where some passengers were saved because they didn’t board their flight at the last minute?
There are always a few stories of positivity and optimism which exist amidst tragedy and despair.
Leslee Udwin’s documentary ‘India’s Daughter‘ for BBC Four has taken India by storm. It takes us through the dark night of 16th December 2012 when Jyoti (Nirbhaya) and her friend were attacked by a group of perverted animals (can’t call them humans). I won’t go into the reasons of it being banned or whether that’s the right or the wrong decision. But the question is, what does it teach us?
First and foremost, it’s like a mirror of the society for so many of us. We have always heard that woman are considered inferior to man. But this one proves that and more with the statements of the individuals involved. From Mukesh Singh (one of the rapists) to the lawyers AP Singh and ML Sharma, all of them reflect such narrow views which are commonplace in our society. Haven’t you heard any of them before?
From the time we are young, our parents take care of us in every possible way. From ensuring that we have the correct eating and sleeping habits to teaching us values and virtues; from answering all our possible questions to quelling our curiosity to spending their hard earned money and time to see us grow into good human beings, our parents do so much for us. And thus, when they grow old, isn’t it our duty to take care of them?
Our newspapers, social media, TV channels, conversations among friends and more are almost always filled with negative stories of any kind from violence in any form to deaths. It’s like discussing about negativity is something which people survive on in today’s world. But is the world really that negative? Or are our thoughts shaped by what we read or hear?
Violence in any form has increased over the years. People are ready to kill each other for money, religion, love and every reason you could possibly think of. Disasters of every kind lead to deaths of thousands of people each day. While these acts may still be few and far in between, the human mind starts to remember each of them as he or she is fed with information on such acts day in and day out.
A woman’s place is only in the kitchen.
Women are the ones who take care of the children while men are the ones who go outside to work.
Household work is the domain of women while men can sit and relax.
Women cannot do physically demanding jobs.
Women are not the right people for top jobs in the corporate sector since they have to fulfill household responsibilities.
I am sure all of us would have made either one or all the above statements at least once during our lives. In patriarchal societies across the world, even today women are generally considered as those who can sit at home and fulfill the household responsibilities. Women who dare to go out and work, follow their passion and try to become multi-dimensional in their thinking and approach to life are frowned upon in many quarters.
But why so?
“Oh God! Look at him. His face is so full of pimples. Doesn’t he look awful?”
“Seeing the number of pimples he has, which girl would even want to come close to him?”
“Looks like he isn’t really bothered about his personality. If he has a problem with pimples, why doesn’t he care to treat it?”
I am sure there would be many of us who would have heard or made some of the above statements at least a couple of times in our lives. For each of us, the way we look shapes our lives in every sphere. Whether its getting a girlfriend or a boyfriend, getting a job or moving anywhere in the professional space, all of us want to look good all the time.
And looking good starts from the top. While a person may not have great facial features to begin with, everyone expects basic stuff like neatly combed hair, a clean shaven look for guys, a non – oily face and the likes. Obviously a lot many girls don’t like the guys to be clean shaven. But let’s cover that in a different post.