Leslee Udwin’s documentary ‘India’s Daughter‘ for BBC Four has taken India by storm. It takes us through the dark night of 16th December 2012 when Jyoti (Nirbhaya) and her friend were attacked by a group of perverted animals (can’t call them humans). I won’t go into the reasons of it being banned or whether that’s the right or the wrong decision. But the question is, what does it teach us?
First and foremost, it’s like a mirror of the society for so many of us. We have always heard that woman are considered inferior to man. But this one proves that and more with the statements of the individuals involved. From Mukesh Singh (one of the rapists) to the lawyers AP Singh and ML Sharma, all of them reflect such narrow views which are commonplace in our society. Haven’t you heard any of them before?
“Why was she roaming around at night? A good girl doesn’t go about roaming with any individual in the night. She should only be with her father, brother, mother, grandfather, grandmother etc.”
“Our culture is the best culture. It has no place for women.”
“Why did she fightback? If she hadn’t, we wouldn’t have hit her or her friend. She should have let us do our job.”
“Girls are like flowers who need to be protected while men are like thorns.”
“If my daughter would go on a date with a guy, I will burn her in our farmhouse.”
The above statements are nothing surprising to be honest. It’s just that they were directly from the horse’s mouth. These lawyers are part of the top courts in the country but their patriarchal mindset is something which I am sure a lot of men can easily associate with.
Yes everyone has the right to have his or her own views. But the fact is because of such biased and narrow views, women face the wrath of men more often than not. It’s as if women have to follow all the rules and there’s nothing to control the libido of men.
There’s a problem with everything a woman does from eating to going out to her dressing sense and finally her friendship with men.
Secondly, this documentary just reinforces the view among a lot of people who consider women as nothing but objects who are there for titillation and enjoyment.
Yes, it talks about the landmark protests after the Nirbhaya incident. The case did bring about a change in the way that women today are more willing to come forward and report such incidents. The stigma associated with rape is also slowly but surely going away.
But the documentary ends with a sort of a warning for women –
Mukesh says – “Ok hang us and set a precedent. But next time someone rapes a woman, he would directly kill her.”
Hanging the rapists and setting a precedent is all well and good. But have we really tried to address the core issue? Why is it that so many parents are sad even today when they have a girl child? Why are women considered the weaker sex? Why don’t parents teach their sons to respect women the same way as they respect their sisters and mothers?
Until we consider women as equals and stop acting like the moral brigade, women would always need to be on the lookout for perverts on the prowl.
Linking to NaBloPoMo (National Blog Post Month – March – My post no 3 for this month.