There are so many of us who believe that we marry for ourselves and not our families or extended relatives.Obviously that’s understandable to a great extent. If you and your spouse-to-be love each other & understand each other very well, why should anyone else have any problem at all? Let’s explore the argument in more detail.
Consider a scenario. You love someone and she loves you back. What do you do? If neither of your parents agree despite you making them understand a zillion times, you decide to elope. You expect your parents to understand over time which they may be forced to do after few years. Or instead, you decide that you wouldn’t marry unless the parents approve. Maybe, after a long time the parents may approve as well if they consider that things are not too bad.
But again, if both are from different religions, parents may have a huge problem. What will society think? What kind of customs will they follow? What kind of thinking will their family have? How can I let her touch anything in the kitchen with those dirty hands of hers? All these questions and more spring up in the minds of parents across India even today. We talk about forward thinking but in terms of marriage, there is surely a long way to go.
Let me ask you a couple of questions. If the individual is from a different religion, does that make him or her any small in front of us? If there is love & understanding between two individuals, isn’t it more important than petty issues of religion? Some force the other to change their religion just so that they can approve the marriage. This is another wrong practice which is followed by many out there.
It should be one’s personal choice on the religion he or she chooses to follow. A religion doesn’t define a person’s character or nature. Individuals with the worst characters can hide behind the garb of religion just to gain sympathy of individuals.
Only when we rise out of our narrow mindset of religion, caste, creed etc. would we realize that there is much more to the world than just worrying about all this. Learn to respect people’s opinions and don’t force yours onto them.
And finally, don’t worry about society and what people would say if you marry an individual from another religion. You are not marrying to keep all of them happy.
We need to be the change ourselves to rise out of the narrow mindedness associated with inter-religious marriages in India.